“Each
time we face our fear, we gain strength, courage and confidence in the doing”~~~Unknown
We are so often shut by the ‘fear of failure’. ‘Fear of failure should never be
a reason, not to try something’, I read somewhere. This prevents us from even
knowing, 'what can any failure look like?' Fear is one of the most harmful attitudes,
found even in the strongest of all. This completely controls the' power of
trying'. Once we learn to make friendship with fear, the result is awe-inspiring.
I
remember my first job as a field reporter. Immediately after completing my
Masters in Communication, I got a job in one of the news publication. I was
more interested in writing featured articles upon social causes, but
being completely new to the field, I was asked to try in the news desk first,
and later to move on to the feature section. I always got scattered by the fear
of failure, even before trying anything. I started feeling tensed by the very
thought of humiliation and rejection. The fear of 'I can't do this’, stopped me
from even going out and hunting for news. I had that 'nose for news', but may
be not the skills to turn a news story into a sensitive story, because of many
limitations like; reporting structures, space, orders, as per publication rules
etc. Slowly, I started to believe in something- I call as, "failure
power". Failure truly had some extra hidden powers to turn my every no to
'yes’'. I failed in my first, second, third; may be in many attempts. Only
thing that I kept repeating to myself is, “try, and try until you fail”.
Finally, I succeeded this time. I got my first by-line for bringing in,
exclusive, interesting story that got a special space in the newspaper. I learned
the tricks from my errors. I was so happy to learn that, I had already become
confident in this process. I knew where to and how to proceed.
Since then, I don't mind being called a failure or a loser anytime, because, I
am aware of my strengths and knowledge. You definitely not have to be a genius
or excellent in achieving success. For me, Excellency does not always define top
academic results or cream of the crop students. Count your success by the
'number of failures turned into success'. They are the most realized and hardworking
people in the planet, because they know what it is like to achieve success,
when others thought you are just a loser. Make failures, a part of your
process, and soon we will learn about the strengths we can discover out of any
failure in our life. We will be surprised to know about our capabilities and
talents. I did that! Now, I am not hurt when I meet any of my friends, peers
who knew, 'I was nothing'. I do not hesitate to invite or add them to my
friend’s list anymore, because I know I am doing things differently. I am doing
what I have always liked doing, but never had the courage to do it and face the
world. I was afraid of being called a failure again! In all these years, I have
become much stronger and aware of these important questions, we often ask
ourselves. What I like to do? Why I should do, what I like doing? Will this get
me success? Where and how can I start? Will this also help me earn a peaceful
and satisfactory life? We very often get stuck in finding appropriate answers
to such questions, because we forcefully keep ourselves happy and satisfied in
what we are doing, whereas, the inside me always wanted to do something else.
Something which I like and have has always dreamed of.
‘Failures
are good’. They help us find out our potential strength. We may not be
something today, but the knowledge and experience we gain out of it is
commendable. That does not mean, we have to always face failures to be
successful in life; but when we fail, we learn about hidden qualities within
us. We gain strength and courage to rise up and try again. Try something that,
we can do. Most important, we like to do! When you like something, you will
definitely put your heart, soul and faith into it. You will do lots of
research; find channels to show it to others, invest your time, knowledge and
experience, and nothing can stop this becoming a hit! Just ‘Believe in yourself’-
Three mighty words, that will take you a long way.
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